ALLOW YOURSELF TIME TO GRIEVE
Grief is as unique as the person living it. There is no rulebook to follow or time frame in which you must work through your grief. It took me seven years to finally face the loss and pain of my brother’s death.
People who have not lost a significant other are often insensitive to people grieving the death of a family member or dear friend. Either they don’t want to see us sad and want us to “snap out of it,” or they just don’t get it and expect us to move on. Our period of grief does not fit into their idea for a time frame of healing. They are irritated and impatient with our change in mood and behavior.
The Lord is the Great Physician and is able to heal even the deepest of wounds. He does not want us to remain incapacitated in our grief indefinitely.
Moving out of our grief is not a betrayal of the person we lost. Some of us want to remain connected to our loved one through grief. However, it is the memories we hold in our hearts that are the true connections we should keep. We will slowly find our pain lessening once our eyes move back to the race God has placed before us to run. The loved one you lost will be cheering you on and waiting for you when you have crossed the finish line. Then, you will be in a heavenly eternal home where there are no more tears and no more good-byes. Praise Be To God!
Now Jesus had not yet entered the village, but was still at the place where Martha had met him. When the Jews who had been with Mary in the house, comforting her, noticed how quickly she got up and went out, they followed her, supposing she was going to the tomb to mourn there. When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. “Where have you laid him?” he asked. “Come and see, Lord,” they replied. Jesus wept. Then the Jews said, “See how he loved him!” But some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man have kept this man from dying?”